Life and death lies in the power of the tongue.
Being in college, I wanted so badly to be like the rest of the black girls on campus who cursed unapologetically, and popped off at the mouth, who threw shade carelessly. BUT GOD CREATED ME TO NOT BE LIKE ANYONE ELSE BUT HIM.
Ephesians 4:2—“Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.”
verse 12(same chapter)—“Their responsibility is to equip God’s people to do his work and build up the church, the body of Christ.”
Are your words building up the body of Christ or tearing them apart? That is the work of the enemy—to divide and conquer. We must examine our hearts.
Ephesians 4:15 tells us to speak the truth IN LOVE. So many times, we bypass the last two words as if they aren’t just as important as the first three. Everything we must be in love, and since God is Love. EVERYTHING WE DO MUST BE IN GOD. Meaning, we must have God at the forefront of our minds when it comes to our actions, words, facial expressions (I was guilty of this one), and intentions of our heart. This doesn’t just apply to how we treat others, but how we treat ourselves.
The greatest commandments in the Bible are to love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength AND love our neighbor as we love OURSELVES. So many times we focus on loving our neighbor that we have not been intentional with loving and focusing on ourselves.
How can you drench someone else with the love of God but despise yourself? How can you plant and water seeds of love, trust, compassion and grace into other people but have left yourself dry and parched?
Biblical self love is not selfish. It’s more than face masks and massages and bubble baths. It’s the spiritual affirmations we discussed (if you haven’t read them, please check them out), and it’s also doing a Topical Bible Study on subjects such as: Fruits of the Spirit, Speech, Love, Grace, Mercy— things that the Holy Spirit has showed you as your personal struggles.
This is not me trying to embarrass you or make you feel hopeless, but I as your Sister in Christ must speak what the Word of God says so that you will then be held accountable by the Holy Spirit afterwards. This is all for your edification so you can learn to love God, love yourself, and then be able to love others.
I pray that you were blessed by this message. As daughters of Christ, we are to encourage and edify each other but that only comes after we truthfully and loving point out the parts of us that God is trying to prune.
I love you, and more importantly,even more so does your Father.